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Is He into You?
- By Lily Eastman
- Published 06/13/2008
- For Women
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Lily Eastman
Lily was born in the back of a station wagon to traveling circus performers. They left her at a rest stop in Polk County when her fear of tigers made her a nuisance. A nice family adopted and tried to make her feel welcome, but sometimes, late at night, when the bullfrogs called, she wondered if she might be different. Not really, she sleeps like a rock, so she never heard the bullfrogs. She now plots world domination. And takes naps.
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You see him on the elevator every morning. In his crisp light blue shirt that matches his eyes, the scent of his cologne driving you crazy. Sometimes he smiles at you. The two of you have chatted in meetings before, and he seems like he might be interested. He's in accounting, you know he loves mountain biking...and you can't take your eyes off of him. You
try to sit next to him, ask him to be your partner for those goofy team-building exercises HR makes you do...but how can you tell if he's interested? Is he just
being friendly, or does he (just maybe) have the hots for you, too?
Here are five easy ways to tell if the object of your affection is feeling a bit affected by you, too.
1. Pay attention to his body language when the two of you are talking
Does he lean in to you? Where are his eyes? If he gazes over your shoulder, then all bets are off. Ditto for if he ogles your boobs. If he makes eye contact, and is paying attention, that's a great sign!
2. It's not all about him
When you're talking to him, who's doing most of the talking? Is it him, bragging about an account he just landed? Does he talk about himself and never ask about you? The amount of time he spends listening to you and being open to what you say is a good indicator of how interested he is. Is he asking you questions
about yourself? Does he
seem interested in your life? If he only talks about himself, run
away...FAST! You don't want to spend every date listening to him tell
you what he had for dinner last night.
3. What about his friends?
When he's around his friends or coworkers and you walk past, does he acknowledge you? Or does he look the other way. If he really likes you, he'll wave and smile--- maybe even introduce you to the people he's with. If he ignores you, that's a really bad sign, and you might want to move on.
4. Does he go out of his way for you?
If he turns around and sees you, does he wait for you to catch up? If he's behind you, does he hurry to catch up? Have you noticed him lingering in the break room until you leave? Any time he goes out of his way to see you or spend time with you, it's a really good sign.
5. Whoa, check that ego
When he does talk about himself, does he try to make himself sound good? If he's interested in you, he might emphasize that he recently got a promotion, or that his volleyball league is kicking butt (go see him play!). Men wanting to prove their worth to women is simple evolution-- they want to appear as good mates, good providers, to get the girl. Realize that it's good that he wants to impress you, but remember #2... a guy who only brags about himself isn't interested in who you are.
Good luck, and happy flirting!
Here are five easy ways to tell if the object of your affection is feeling a bit affected by you, too.
1. Pay attention to his body language when the two of you are talking
Does he lean in to you? Where are his eyes? If he gazes over your shoulder, then all bets are off. Ditto for if he ogles your boobs. If he makes eye contact, and is paying attention, that's a great sign!
2. It's not all about him
When you're talking to him, who's doing most of the talking? Is it him, bragging about an account he just landed? Does he talk about himself and never ask about you? The amount of time he spends listening to you and being open to what you say is a good indicator of how interested he is. Is he asking you questions
3. What about his friends?
When he's around his friends or coworkers and you walk past, does he acknowledge you? Or does he look the other way. If he really likes you, he'll wave and smile--- maybe even introduce you to the people he's with. If he ignores you, that's a really bad sign, and you might want to move on.
4. Does he go out of his way for you?
If he turns around and sees you, does he wait for you to catch up? If he's behind you, does he hurry to catch up? Have you noticed him lingering in the break room until you leave? Any time he goes out of his way to see you or spend time with you, it's a really good sign.
5. Whoa, check that ego
When he does talk about himself, does he try to make himself sound good? If he's interested in you, he might emphasize that he recently got a promotion, or that his volleyball league is kicking butt (go see him play!). Men wanting to prove their worth to women is simple evolution-- they want to appear as good mates, good providers, to get the girl. Realize that it's good that he wants to impress you, but remember #2... a guy who only brags about himself isn't interested in who you are.
Good luck, and happy flirting!